Sarah Wilson

Dog Expert

Brand New Puppy? Let Them Sleep Near You


Let New Pups Sleep Near YouA trainer friend came in the door looking haggard. Her new client puppy cried off and on all night crated in her kitchen. “I’m exhausted” she said, stating the obvious.

She got a hug then this advice, “Put the puppy’s crate next to your bed.”

She looked surprised. “I’ve always heard I should let them cry it out.” she stated.

That is common advice and I used to say it, too. I was wrong.

Allowing your new puppy to sleep near you for a week or so makes things epically easier for everyone. Here are the benefits:

  • You sleep which is critical to you being the sort of puppy person you planned on being.
  • You can hear when your pup gets restless so can take them to their potty area before the crate is wet or the pup is upset.
  • Your pup gets to bond more to you.
  • Your family/spouse/partner isn’t stressed by the constant crying.
  • Ditto your neighbors, if you have some close by.
  • Your puppy gets critical rest after the stress of changing homes, leaving the litter, etc. The pup in this story had been spayed the week before at 8 weeks, been vaccinated, flown across the country, landed in a new home for two days, been given a heartworm preventative, flea and tick treated and wormed for parasites all before coming to my friend. All that totals up to an assault on her tiny system and I advised quiet and lots of sleep for the next few days, at least, to give her little body a chance to recover.

Once your new friend is sleeping through the night and is calmly crating during the day, then the crate can move to the kitchen. This is my standard routine now and it works great.

My most recent student, Button, was screaming her adorable lungs out when left alone day one then crating quietly by day five. Having her next to my bed those first five days made life easier for both of us.

Now you know.


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  1. Thanks to all I’ve learned in your forum, my dogs have taken to their crates well, and recently I’ve found crate placement has been key in dealing with my 7 month Golden. Once I realized Karma and I needed some ‘clarifying of boundaries’ (aka – ‘Grounding’ both of us) one of the things I did was change her crate from the wall on the opposite side of my bedroom to right next to my bed. Message – ‘You are over here because I’m over here – you don’t get to be separate’. Much like having her drag a leash inside or moving to my pace while walking. Particularly while I’m practicing ‘hands off’ where adoration goes during this period, having her next to me but not able to jump in my lap (or the bed!) helps diffuse some of the stress on both of us and I think helps our connection while we reestablish the rules. 🙂

  2. Yep, discovered that on my own. My puppy started in the kitchen, but would cry all night. I put her in a crate and put the crate next to my bed. Then when she would start to cry I’d just lazily slap the top of the crate. Sounds a bit rude. But she’d realize I was next to her…and that crying wasn’t a good thing. And after a few taps of the crate she’d sleep the night knowing I was next to her.

  3. Amen to that! I think it is so important to be there for your dog. Can you imagine how it is to be seperated from your mum and sibblings and then be left alone in a strange new environment with the message ‘to go to sleep’. You can’t sleep if you feel unhappy/not save. It makes me sad that this advice is still given.
    I totally agree that good sleep is important for humans too, because puppy’s can be pretty exhausting :-).
    I think it’s not only good advice for pups but also for rescue-dogs.

  4. I’ve always had my new puppies right in the bed with me. We bond right away and when they move around at night I immediately take them outside to pee. That way there’s almost NEVER an accident in the house or do they have to be stressed about peeing in a crate. If you take them out every time they start moving around, they are house broken in no time! I never have put my pups in crates. It’s probably a good idea for some but I don’t believe in it.

    • Glad that works for you Donna, but that is too risky for me to suggest or do myself. I know too many pups injured by jumping or falling off a bed. In fact, have a new client who lost a puppy who broke her neck when she jumped from their child’s arms.
      Likely? Obviously not.
      Possible? Obviously.
      So, I will continue to crate and recommend strongly that other’s do as well.

      • What if the puppy STILL cry, whines and sound like it’s being tortured when the crate is beside the bed?

        He’ll fall asleep if i lay next to the crate, but then will start up again when he wakes and I’m not there.

    • I am doing this with my new pup and I agree with your post, Donna. He is very clear about letting me know if he does have to get up in the night, and he started sleeping through the night much more quickly that my last puppy (who was crated) did. My theory is that this is because he realizes more quickly that I’m there if he wakes and settles right down.

  5. I brought home a one year old rescue that requires potty training. I can’t get Her in her crate yet so I keep her behind a gate away from where I sleep. should I sleep near her temporarily?

  6. Which breed puppy is that in the picture? Is it a cross? If yes then please tell the breed of parents

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